Why is the Divorce Rate in this country now over 50 percent? Why do most going into Marriage, make statements like, "this is my first marriage?" Is there a God Plan for Marriage? Can you create a solid Foundation to protect yourself and your spouse? Yup. Let's look at Gods Plan for Marriage.
First....
Genesis 2:
Gods plan from the very beginning is that Man and Woman {NOT Man and Man. Or Woman and Woman} are born into the world. They grow. They leave their Mother and Father, and join together as one flesh. For life.
Am I saying there is no acceptable reasons for Divorce? To tell you the truth, there are three ways that The Word declares is acceptable for the release of the obligation of Marriage. Only Three. Only two does Jesus Himself say.
Death
Adultery
Unbelieving Spouse
Death
Pretty much self explanatory. If your Spouse dies, then you are freed from the obligation of Marriage. Makes sense. Does it not? But wait, what about when you go to Heaven. What if your Spouse dies and you Marry another. What then? When you die, who's your spouse? Jesus answered this specific question directly.
Matthew 22:
Adultery
Other than Death, this is the only reason Jesus gives as acceptable reason for Divorce. In..
Matthew 19:
Think about that. Think about John. Think about Jesus Himself. Think about all the Disciples. They played a powerful part in God's Plan, would you not say? They would have never been, had their Mother and Father not found each other, and fell in love, and Married. Right? So is any "Chance Encounter" REALLY a "Chance Encounter" or is it totally orchestrated. I summit to you that you are not with your Spouse because you just happened to meet. I truly believe that you are together because God brought you together.
Where did you meet? Why? Was it at a Shopping Center? Was it at Work? In a Plane? Cab? Was it at a Festival? Think about this. You are so important to God, that He may have very well put in into the heart of the Store Owner to buy the Store. He dropped a thought of how to lay it out. Or He put it into the heart of the one that hired both of you. Then He used whatever He needed to to bright you two together at a very specific time. Your "Chance Encounter" leads to Love, Marriage, and YOU. Or Your Child. This is why it is so important to seek out God's Plan and Purpose for your Life. He has one.
Unbelieving Spouse
So what happens if you and your Spouse hear the Truth and YOU accept it, and your Spouse doesn't. This is the only way this applies by the way. This does not apply if you are a Believer and you decide to join together with a non-Believer, thinking you will save them, or whatever. The Word warns us about this..
2 Corinthians 6:
1 Corinthians 7:
Again, however, this is Paul saying it is Paul saying this. Not God. So take it as you will. Make no mistake about it though, this does not apply to you, already a Child of God, that goes out and finds a non-believer, and agrees to Marry them. You invite all kinds of problems in from the start. You CHOSE to enter into this agreement and therefore you are now bound with them.
You are now on your way to a Solid Foundation. Man and Woman, Gods plan. Sorry. The pieces fit. The puzzle comes together. Two halves become one. If you are offended by this? Sorry. Just the truth. Second, If you are a Child of God, you must find a Child of God. Now you have a Foundation to work with. How do you build on that? God. His Word. His Plan. What does that mean?
In every Child of God, the most important of all is God. Yup. Before Spouses, Mother and Fathers, Children, or anything else. God. Deuteronomy 11:13, Deuteronomy 13:3, Joshua 22:5, Matthew 22:37 Mark 12:30 Luke 10:27 " to love the Lord your God, and to serve him with all your heart and with all your soul." "This is the first and great commandment." God MUST be first in your life. Yes, before everything else.
Second, Spouse. The most important person on the Planet to you. The love of your life. Your soul-mate. Next to God, they should be the one on your mind. How to make them happy. Tell them you love them. Enjoy life together.
Third Children. Am I saying Children come AFTER God and Spouse? Yup. We will talk more about Children next time. But After these three things, the most important thing in your life, especially if you are the Man, is your Job. Fellas, sorry, but it is YOUR responsibility to provide for the Family. YOURS. Not her's. Not the Government's. Not anyone else. It is YOUR responsibility to provide for the family.
God's plan for a happy Marriage and Family? Man is Head of Household. Woman is Head of Children. Children should be able to be Children, and should be being taught about God and His Commandments and His ways.
Ephesians 5:
Continuing on? "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh."
How did Jesus love the Church? How did He love us? He came to DIE for us. As men, we are to, say it with me.. "Love, Nurture, Cherish, and Honor" your Wives. You go to work and let them stay home and keep the home and raise the kids. This way the kids are not being raised by strangers with strange ways about them.
Notice how this starts out though. "Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord;" As a Family. Grace at dinner, every meal, would be a nice place to start. Instead of always sitting on the couch watching violate and inappropriate TV, how about spending a little time reading the Bible? Praying. Enjoying fellowship with God. Allow Him to be part of your home life in deed and not just lip service.
1 Corinthians 7:
Marriage is God created, God Blessed, God Commanded.
First....
Genesis 2:
24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.One flesh. One unit. Not two individuals living together for a common good. But ONE Flesh. God sees a Married Couple as one person. It would be like you saying, Arm, I no longer have need of you, be gone. Your arm is part of you. You have two. You have two eyes. Hands. Legs. Feet. Ears. Are you following this? But they are all you.
Gods plan from the very beginning is that Man and Woman {NOT Man and Man. Or Woman and Woman} are born into the world. They grow. They leave their Mother and Father, and join together as one flesh. For life.
Am I saying there is no acceptable reasons for Divorce? To tell you the truth, there are three ways that The Word declares is acceptable for the release of the obligation of Marriage. Only Three. Only two does Jesus Himself say.
Death
Adultery
Unbelieving Spouse
Death
Pretty much self explanatory. If your Spouse dies, then you are freed from the obligation of Marriage. Makes sense. Does it not? But wait, what about when you go to Heaven. What if your Spouse dies and you Marry another. What then? When you die, who's your spouse? Jesus answered this specific question directly.
Matthew 22:
23 The same day came to him the Sadducees, which say that there is no resurrection, and asked him,Once you pass on to Heaven, you will no longer care worldly stuff. You will be at peace. In a place where there is no sorrows, pain, or Sin. You will be praising God and living in peace. Once your Spouse passes, they will be doing the same. Will you know each other? I believe so. But you will not be Husband and Wife. You will be in TOTAL LOVE and peace that is God. That is the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords.
24 Saying, Master, Moses said, If a man die, having no children, his brother shall marry his wife, and raise up seed unto his brother.
25 Now there were with us seven brethren: and the first, when he had married a wife, deceased, and, having no issue, left his wife unto his brother:
26 Likewise the second also, and the third, unto the seventh.
27 And last of all the woman died also.
28 Therefore in the resurrection whose wife shall she be of the seven? for they all had her.
29 Jesus answered and said unto them, Ye do err, not knowing the scriptures, nor the power of God.
30 For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven.
Adultery
Other than Death, this is the only reason Jesus gives as acceptable reason for Divorce. In..
Matthew 19:
3 The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?So next to death itself, Adultery is the only true acceptable excuse to be released from the life long obligation of Marriage. Jesus even says, "What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." No one can separate, or come between what God has brought together.
4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,
5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
Think about that. Think about John. Think about Jesus Himself. Think about all the Disciples. They played a powerful part in God's Plan, would you not say? They would have never been, had their Mother and Father not found each other, and fell in love, and Married. Right? So is any "Chance Encounter" REALLY a "Chance Encounter" or is it totally orchestrated. I summit to you that you are not with your Spouse because you just happened to meet. I truly believe that you are together because God brought you together.
Where did you meet? Why? Was it at a Shopping Center? Was it at Work? In a Plane? Cab? Was it at a Festival? Think about this. You are so important to God, that He may have very well put in into the heart of the Store Owner to buy the Store. He dropped a thought of how to lay it out. Or He put it into the heart of the one that hired both of you. Then He used whatever He needed to to bright you two together at a very specific time. Your "Chance Encounter" leads to Love, Marriage, and YOU. Or Your Child. This is why it is so important to seek out God's Plan and Purpose for your Life. He has one.
Unbelieving Spouse
So what happens if you and your Spouse hear the Truth and YOU accept it, and your Spouse doesn't. This is the only way this applies by the way. This does not apply if you are a Believer and you decide to join together with a non-Believer, thinking you will save them, or whatever. The Word warns us about this..
2 Corinthians 6:
14 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?In this manor, stick to your own kind. You want nothing to do with one that doesn't believe. Nor do they have anything to do with you. Stay Ye Separate. But what if a Married couple hear The Truth together, and one accepts it and one does not? You have become a New Creature. A New Person. They have not. What about this? Paul tells us this. But keep one thing in mind...
1 Corinthians 7:
12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away."But to the rest speak I, not the Lord." Paul makes it crystal clear here that he is giving HIS OPINION on this. NOT relaying a Commandment of God. Again, he said "But to the rest speak I, not the Lord." Then he goes on to say, " For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy." Makes sense. Then he said, "But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace." Again, makes sense. Once you become a Child of God, you are a new Creature. If the unbelieving Spouse no longer wants to be with you, let them go. They no longer have anything to do with you.
13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?
Again, however, this is Paul saying it is Paul saying this. Not God. So take it as you will. Make no mistake about it though, this does not apply to you, already a Child of God, that goes out and finds a non-believer, and agrees to Marry them. You invite all kinds of problems in from the start. You CHOSE to enter into this agreement and therefore you are now bound with them.
You are now on your way to a Solid Foundation. Man and Woman, Gods plan. Sorry. The pieces fit. The puzzle comes together. Two halves become one. If you are offended by this? Sorry. Just the truth. Second, If you are a Child of God, you must find a Child of God. Now you have a Foundation to work with. How do you build on that? God. His Word. His Plan. What does that mean?
In every Child of God, the most important of all is God. Yup. Before Spouses, Mother and Fathers, Children, or anything else. God. Deuteronomy 11:13, Deuteronomy 13:3, Joshua 22:5, Matthew 22:37 Mark 12:30 Luke 10:27 " to love the Lord your God, and to serve him with all your heart and with all your soul." "This is the first and great commandment." God MUST be first in your life. Yes, before everything else.
Second, Spouse. The most important person on the Planet to you. The love of your life. Your soul-mate. Next to God, they should be the one on your mind. How to make them happy. Tell them you love them. Enjoy life together.
Third Children. Am I saying Children come AFTER God and Spouse? Yup. We will talk more about Children next time. But After these three things, the most important thing in your life, especially if you are the Man, is your Job. Fellas, sorry, but it is YOUR responsibility to provide for the Family. YOURS. Not her's. Not the Government's. Not anyone else. It is YOUR responsibility to provide for the family.
God's plan for a happy Marriage and Family? Man is Head of Household. Woman is Head of Children. Children should be able to be Children, and should be being taught about God and His Commandments and His ways.
Ephesians 5:
19 Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord;"Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God." Now the World comes in here and HATES this simple truth. They have twisted it into something it is not. "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing." Does that mean barefoot and pregnant? Does that mean that they should stay in the house and allow themselves to be beaten and Dictated to? Of course not. But this is what the World would like you to believe.
20 Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ;
21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
Continuing on? "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh."
How did Jesus love the Church? How did He love us? He came to DIE for us. As men, we are to, say it with me.. "Love, Nurture, Cherish, and Honor" your Wives. You go to work and let them stay home and keep the home and raise the kids. This way the kids are not being raised by strangers with strange ways about them.
Notice how this starts out though. "Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord;" As a Family. Grace at dinner, every meal, would be a nice place to start. Instead of always sitting on the couch watching violate and inappropriate TV, how about spending a little time reading the Bible? Praying. Enjoying fellowship with God. Allow Him to be part of your home life in deed and not just lip service.
You know another benefit to a happy Marriage? Great Sex. Oh and by the way, did you know God "Commands" you to have sex? Not kidding.
1 Corinthians 7:
3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.God created sex. He wants to to have sex all the time and any way you can. As long as it's with your spouse. Experiment. Role play. Have FUN! Do whatever you chose. You do not need to go anywhere else. You have God Blessed Sex, right there in your Home, just waiting for you. Are you getting this? Sex is not evil. Sex is not wrong. Done the right way. Sex is for us to enjoy. It is when we allow all the outside garbage in, implanting thoughts in our heads, that it becomes evil. Withholding sex from your Spouse CAN lead to your Spouse seeking pleasure and comfort elsewhere.
4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
Marriage is God created, God Blessed, God Commanded.
Hebrews 13:
Do you know Jesus as your Savior? Have you been adopted into the Family of God? If not, say this Prayer. Right now. Wherever you may be. Say it in your own words, and do not doubt in your heart. God will hear you. He will send the Spirit of Life to you. Let us Pray..
"Oh heavenly Father, Lord God. I am a sinner. I know this. I know there is nothing I can do to change that. But I know you can. I accept Jesus's sacrifice for me. I repent my sins. Please send the Spirit of Adoption into my life. Help me to get to know the real you. Save me. Please. In the name of Jesus, Amen!"
That's it. It really is that simple. Now go tell someone what you have just done. "That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved." {Romans 10:9} You need to find a Church that God leads you to, and be Baptized the way Jesus said to be. You are now a Child of God. A new Creature. You "have put off the old man with his deeds, and have put on the new man, which is renewed in knowledge after the image of him that created him." {Colossians 3:10}
If you want to tell me, or comment, question, give testimonials, or just say "Hi," the Email is opntalk@gmail.com
Until next time, be blessed, be a blessing, and Jesus IS Lord of all!
4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.You want a great, long lasting, loving Marriage? Set yourselves a Solid Foundation. Faith, Family, Work, and all else is after. Nothing else really matters. God, Man, Woman, Children, means to support them. That's it. Oh and great sex. That's God's Plan for a healthy Marriage. Is yours built on a Solid Foundation? If not Married now, if you are wise, you will build it God's way.
Do you know Jesus as your Savior? Have you been adopted into the Family of God? If not, say this Prayer. Right now. Wherever you may be. Say it in your own words, and do not doubt in your heart. God will hear you. He will send the Spirit of Life to you. Let us Pray..
"Oh heavenly Father, Lord God. I am a sinner. I know this. I know there is nothing I can do to change that. But I know you can. I accept Jesus's sacrifice for me. I repent my sins. Please send the Spirit of Adoption into my life. Help me to get to know the real you. Save me. Please. In the name of Jesus, Amen!"
That's it. It really is that simple. Now go tell someone what you have just done. "That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved." {Romans 10:9} You need to find a Church that God leads you to, and be Baptized the way Jesus said to be. You are now a Child of God. A new Creature. You "have put off the old man with his deeds, and have put on the new man, which is renewed in knowledge after the image of him that created him." {Colossians 3:10}
If you want to tell me, or comment, question, give testimonials, or just say "Hi," the Email is opntalk@gmail.com
Until next time, be blessed, be a blessing, and Jesus IS Lord of all!
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