Why Does God Hate Me? Death of a Loved One

 Death of a Loved One

This one is going to be a little more difficult for me to teach, as I have just lost a dear friend of mine. His name is Tom, and he and his wife were married for 56 years. I have been friends with them for a long time. They both went to church on a Friday night prayer service and went out to eat after. He even told Dawn, his wife, that he felt good. They went home, went to bed, and she found in the morning that he was gone.

He, they both were and she is, my dearest of friends, and like family to me. I miss him so very much. I cannot even imagine how she feels. They were married longer than I have been alive. He was old school. She was his queen. He did everything for her. Now he is no longer here. If anyone was a candidate to get angry with God, hate god, or think God hates them, she is.

I could be angry for God taking my friend home. My niece has basically turned her back on God after the passing of her mother. She is of the opinion that “Hey God hates me, so I hate Him back.” But is this the reality of the situation? I believe that in one aspect, it comes from the fear of death itself.

I understand that many fear death. It is natural to fear the unknown. But it doesn't have to be the unknown. Being a child of God, you know what to expect. You understand, that when that time comes for you, it is not a punishment. It is not a horrific event. It comes because it must. Turn to Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

"For everything, there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted; a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; a time to seek, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; a time to tear, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; a time to love, and a time to hate; a time for war, and a time for peace."

Read that part again. “a time to be born, and a time to die” Death is just as a part of life as life itself. A little bit later it says this.

"For what happens to the children of man and what happens to the beasts is the same; as one dies, so dies the other. They all have the same breath, and man has no advantage over the beasts, for all is vanity.”

In other words, death will come. There is an appointed time. We all must face our immortality in this temporal world. I truly believe that our fear is in what comes next. However, Jesus tells us what comes next...

“Let not your hearts be troubled. Believe in God; believe also in me. In my Father's house are many rooms. If it were not so, would I have told you that I go to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and will take you to myself, that where I am you may be also." John 14:1-3

What is heaven like? Well, the truth is, we really cannot even comprehend it. Oh, we see glimpses in Revelations. Streets paved in gold, God on His throne. No sickness, disease, or sorrow. If you are a Child of God and adopted into the family through faith in Jesus, there is no more death. However, there is no way our human limited little minds, could even come close to comprehending what heaven is like. As a matter of fact, we read this.

“But, as it is written,

“What no eye has seen, nor ear heard,
nor the heart of man imagined,
what God has prepared for those who love him” 1 Corinthians 2:9

We cannot even comprehend the concept. Not truly. For the child of God, or the “Christian” death is merely a transition. It is a new beginning. A first day into eternity. Which is also not something we can easily grasp.

If God wants us to live forever with Him, then why did He create death, to begin with? Well, here is where it gets a little tough for some. Let's look at the beginning. God created everything and then He created us to be in charge and with Him. We were in the Garden of Eden and God was too. Look here.

“And they heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and the man and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the Lord God among the trees of the garden.” Genesis 3:8

They were there in paradise that God created, and they “heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden.” They were there with Him, and He was with them. However, they sinned against God and gave all their authority over to the devil. So now THEY allowed sin and sickness, and pain and sorrow, and yes, even death, to enter into God's perfect creation. It was not God. It was us.

Why did God create death? God created a perfect union between Him and us. We brought sin into it which did what? Separated us from God. They sinned continuously, to the point we started to sleep with angels and created a new race that was never intended by God and continue to sin. If the end result of all sin is continued separation from god, then God no longer wanted us to sin forever, so He made this decree in Genesis 6

“My Spirit shall not abide in man forever, for he is flesh: his days shall be 120 years.” Genesis 6:3

Up till then, people were living for hundreds and hundreds of years. Noah was 950 when he died. Death was actually a gift to us. A way to leave this sin-infested world and be joined back with Him fully in paradise.

However, we still sinned and so He sent the Law, prophets and teachers, and showers of the way. We abused and killed them. So He put off His own Godhood, and became like one of us, He became flesh and paid the ultimate sacrifice for us. All we have to do is accept it. That is the beauty and may I say the grace of it. It does not matter who you are, where you are from, what your parents were, and or what they believed. It does not matter what you have in the bank, or what you do for a living. All you have to do is accept Jesus. It is not exclusive, it is all-inclusive because He wants all to repent and come to Him.

Is it too late for someone who rejects Jesus and rejects God, when they die? The sad truth is, Yes, it would appear so. However, I do not know their hearts and I do not know God’s plan or purpose for that individual person. Can He forgive them as they stand before Him? Of course. He is God. However, the Word makes it clear that there will be many who end up going to a place prepared for the devil and his angels. This is why He wants us, His children, to share the gospel and to tell people there is a better way and His name is Jesus.

I know, without any doubt whatsoever, that my friend Tom is with the Lord. He is doing whatever it is you do when you go there. He is not in pain, not sick, not hurting. I do not even believe he is missing me or anything else on this planet. He is with our Lord and our Father. He is seeing things that we cannot even comprehend. He was in his 70s when God called him home. Is this something to be feared?

Remember, for God, our time on earth is nothing. Even time as we know it. The world as we know it will come to an end.

"But do not overlook this one fact, beloved, that with the Lord one day is as a thousand years and a thousand years as one day. The Lord is not slow to fulfill his promise as some count slowness but is patient toward you, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should reach repentance. But the day of the Lord will come like a thief, and then the heavens will pass away with a roar, and the heavenly bodies will be burned up and dissolved, and the earth and the works that are done on it will be exposed.

Since all these things are thus to be dissolved, what sort of people ought you to be in lives of holiness and godliness, waiting for and hastening the coming of the day of God, because of which the heavens will be set on fire and dissolved, and the heavenly bodies will melt as they burn! But according to his promise, we are waiting for new heavens and a new earth in which righteousness dwells.

Therefore, beloved, since you are waiting for these, be diligent to be found by him without spot or blemish, and at peace. And count the patience of our Lord as salvation, just as our beloved brother Paul also wrote to you according to the wisdom given him, as he does in all his letters when he speaks in them of these matters. There are some things in them that are hard to understand, which the ignorant and unstable twist to their own destruction, as they do the other Scriptures. You therefore, beloved, knowing this beforehand, take care that you are not carried away with the error of lawless people and lose your own stability. But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To him be the glory both now and to the day of eternity. Amen." 2 Peter 3:8-18

This is why Jesus tells us to seek first the Kingdom of God. We are His children, He will meet our needs. All this "stuff" the world has to offer is nothing. It's here one moment and gone the next. As a child of God, you are immortal. You are going to live forever in paradise and with our Lord. This is not something to fear. This is something to look forward to.

When one of our loved ones, passes on, from here to there, we will mourn them. This is normal. It is human. It is natural. My wife Laura got a contracted Job at one point. The pay was good. The experience was great. It was a big deal for her. So she took it. Two months across the other side of our state. She left. Did I miss her? Of course. Everyday. Did our kids miss her? Of course, every day. But you know what? We all knew that we would see her again one day soon. We did.

That child of God, your loved one, just got on a bus, or a train, and left. They are on their way to or they are in Paradise. They are far better off than you, who are still here, dealing with this world of sin, sickness, and evil. Celebrate them. Thank God for taking them home. Just know, one day, you will see them again.

Death is not evidence of God hating you. Not a loved one’s death, or even your own. As a matter of fact, it is a blessing. If you lost a loved one, and you are still here, that simply means that you are not done yet. You still have something to do. Pray to God. Ask Him what it is now. What is the next step? Of course, you may be hurting or sad, missing your loved one, but God has something left for you to do here on earth. That and simply, for your departed loved one, it was simply their time.

Do you need Jesus in your life? If you believe that Jesus is the answer and is needed in your life, then say this Prayer. Right now. Wherever you may be. Say it in your own words, and do not doubt in your heart. God will hear you. He will send the Spirit of Life to you. Let us Pray.

"Oh heavenly Father, Lord God. I am a sinner. I know this. I know there is nothing I can do to change that. But I know you can. I accept Jesus's sacrifice for me. I believed He rose from the dead. I repent my sins. Please send the Spirit of Adoption into my life. Help me to get to know the real you. Save me. Please. In the name of Jesus, Amen!"

That's it. It really is that simple. Now go tell someone what you have just done. "That if you shall confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in your heart that God hath raised him from the dead, You shall be saved." Romans 10:9. You need to find a Church that God leads you to and be Baptized the way Jesus said to be. You are now a Child of God. A New Creature. You "have put off the old man with his deeds, and have put on the new man, which is renewed in knowledge after the image of him that created him."Colossians 3:10

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May the comfort of the Holy Ghost, and the peace of our Lord Jesus, be with you all. May God bless and be with you, always.

Until next time, be blessed, be a blessing, and Jesus is Lord!